Open Letter To This List

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>> The pastor SHOULD NOT tell his wife ANYTHING that someone tell's him
>> in confidence. She is to be his "help meet" IN THE HOME, but in the church
>> she is just ANOTHER MEMBER as it relates to the public ministry.

> I kind of disagree. I feel that often the woman's perspective of the whole
> situation is needed. For example...if a woman councils with the
> pastor....he might want to discuss this with his wife, cause she sees the
> situation from the woman's point of view...

He should gain his insight from the Word of God and through the unction
of the Holy Ghost. His counseling should not be derived from "points-of
view" of ANY member in the church. If he ins't counseling from the Word,
then his counseling is erroneous.

I still contend that things told the pastor in confidence should remain
there.
BEEN THERE/DONE THAT, and it doesn't work out...TRUST ME!

> ...moreover, whenever a woman coucils with the pastor, it is customary
> in my church that the pastor is accompanied by his wife while counceling.

It should be that the congregation as enough faith in their leader that he
can properly counsel a member of the opposite gender without being led
into temptation. It's his job as a pastor. As far as what people will say,
well, if the pastor and his wife counsel a female, who's to say the rumor
won't include the pastor's wife as well? An evil heart will come up with 
something evil regardless of the situation. BEEN THERE/DONE THAT!